Dr. Trina Ghauri
A relationship is a responsibility. Caring for another human being is a responsibility. When they place their heart in your hands, and you accept, you are vowing to care for it. This is love. If you cannot care for the one you love, how does one expect to prosper?
The grass is always greener on the other side approach is for the weak hearted. It is a an immature belief that requires strength and focus to mature. There are 2 sides to EVERY coin. Each comes with its bonuses and challenges. That is the duality of life. We exchange one for the other; the good for the bad, the bad for the good. The seeds of “good and bad” are nature’s gifts. As humans, we have the opportunity to choose the “present” on which to focus. At any moment there is both. We can find the negative if we choose. We can just as equally find the positive.
The cliché is that wrapped in each challenging experience is a greater positive gift, if we choose to notice. Cliché, but true. Humans are remarkable in that our brains have the ability to filter our experiences. In other words, our brain “searches” through our experiences and comes up with that in which we are focused upon, or looking for. We are intelligent creatures, so we wouldn’t choose to go looking for something “bad” for ourselves, unless deep down we instinctively knew that there was a greater gift of wisdom wrapped within. But as humans, we are here to learn & grow, and we have a choice. Do we explore the seemingly “bad or negative” situation in order to discover that gem of wisdom that will propel us forward in life? Or do we ignore it, and hang onto the belief that “the grass is always greener on the other side”? The problem (or gift, depending on how one chooses to see it) is that the grass is exactly the same everywhere. In the beginning it may appear to be filled with everything you’ve always dreamed of. And it is. Then over time the duality factor kicks in and we begin to notice the brown and muddy spots. The green has all but disappeared (in our mind). What has changed? Here’s a hint…it’s not the grass, or the mud. What’s changed is that in order to discover the gifts within, we have to be willing to dig through the mud with the knowing that something greater than just the grass will be there. If we choose to have the focus and responsibility to do this, we will discover that not only do we have great green grass, and hearty soil, but we also have a field in which to build our dreams. http://www.womenwithimpact.com/