Can you Handle the Truth?

If you are single is because you chose so. What is keeping you from a relationship? What kind of fear? Consciousness is reasoning and subconsciousness is the emotional mind. There is always a battle between the 2. We are 100% controlled by emotions. Every choice is about an emotional benefit. We often don’t move until we see pleasure. We’re judged by what we do, such as wealth and money.

Move beyond people’s names, titles, and what they do. Define who we are, our identity. You don’t need to learn anything new. Unlearn all the lies. Create a new belief system. Go back to your pure potential of freedom of expression and openness of receiving love. “Every relationship begins with me”. Find yourself and the rest will follow.

SOUL MATES:
Law of Deservedness. You get only what you subconsciously believe you deserve and no more. You create your own reality. You feel uncomfortable if you get more and sabotage it. We attract mirror images of ourselves. The darkness is just triggering what exists in you. When you change your inner belief, your outer will change. Stop trying to change everyone around you. How hard it is to change yourself? How can you change someone else?

Happiness =
1. Forgive, love and accept yourself
2. Forgive, love and accept others
3. Freedom of expression

Love thy neighbor as thyself. You will find freedom of expression Donald Trump doesn’t care about what people think about his hair. If you are always seeking other’s approval, then you can’t attract a partner. Don’t change who you are to get the person you want.

You modeled your relationships:
· from parents
· your relationship to parents
· the law of deservedness

Know thy self.

Soul mates – 2 people
1. Split Apart: only half of me – need to find the other half – romantic definition – male/female – someone outside of me to make me happy. It is not a good idea.

2. Karmic Partners: soul is separate to the body. The soul is core essence that leaves your body at death and enters at conception.

Love unconditionally because people come into your life to test you. Your greatest teachers are those who kicked the hell out of you. Your parents are the greatest teachers if you want them to be. Don’t let anyone steal your dreams

3. Twin Flames. You made an agreement before you came on this planet. Best friends support and encourage each other.

Attraction:
1. Chemistry – MHC – Major Histo Compatibility Complex – DNA imprint of immune system
Attraction is the opposite of DNA. It is hard wired to produce strong off-spring, with 2 opposite immune systems. It happens through the smell of body odor.

2. Personal: You can be a Talker, Watcher, Doer, and/or Thinker.

3. Values & Beliefs. When you spend a lot of time with someone you bond naturally. Values are core beliefs.

4. Subconscious modeling is from parents.

5. Life Stage

Warrior – masculine – balance of spirit. The Enlightened Warrior serves Women as they get older, they put value on themselves.

THE SOUL MATE
1. Bond, Connection – depending on someone else

2. 4 Levels
· Physical
· Mental
· Spiritual
· Emotional

3. I am challenging you to love unconditionally. Doesn’t have to be someone of opposite sex; doesn’t have to be a life partner. You meet many soul mates on your path. The relationship runs its course. You have to define your own soul mate. Usually there are 5 key Soul mates in your lifetime.

4. Gender -
· you have to be happy in yourself
· Partners still push each other’s button’s, help each other while working on themselves.
You could fall in love if you strip away all the bullshit. You then could experience pure love.

5 Steps to Finding your Ideal Mate
1. Who are you? Values, core values
2. Ideal list – top 10 things, qualities
3. Deal Breakers
4. Give and Be – what can you give to the relationship; what do you want to express?
5. Become ideal – financially free, good self esteem, need to get someone with self esteem; you have to BECOME what you are LOOKING for.

Processes: Who are you? I.e.: prioritize
Growth
Family
Travel
Spontaneity
Health
Freedom
Helping Others
Service
Optimistic
Patient
Happy
Flexible
Spiritual

· Stand in front of a mirror – say I love you – unit the doubt goes out – keep saying it until you start to cry
· Overpowers the self hatred/self loathing
· God/Universe/Spirit is love – the creative force. What does it take for you to love yourself?
· Do not be stuck with what other people told you about yourself
· Stop. What can I learn before I move to the next relationship?

FEAR & ANXIETY
· Get into the feeling
· Subliminal shift in your belief system
· I don’t know what a healthy relationship is
· What would it feel like to be in a health relationship? – shift focus
· Meditation – soft trance – who I’m trying to be – how I feel inside; will keep expanding. There is pleasure with opening up.

Influence & Persuasion -
· Understanding needs, wants and desires.

Thank you.

Elena Pezzini, M.S., C.P.C., A.B.D.
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